(Pro 20:30 KJV) The blueness of a wound cleanseth away evil: so do stripes the inward parts of the belly.
Some people only learn the hard way. Some people refuse to learn until it is too late. I guess some people never know they have anything to learn, at least in some areas.
There are two dangers when we have hard times or tragedy. One is to assume that it is the result of sin. We are much more ready to see that in others. The other danger is to refuse to examine ourselves to see if sin could have caused the problem.
So? Honesty with ourselves is more important than honesty with others. Having said that, it is not an excuse to deceive others. Righteousness is a quality that touches all of life.