(Pro 18:17 KJV) He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him.
Calm down. One of the admonitions that comes repeatedly in Proverbs is to take time to consider things before we speak. This can be about anger or just touchy feelings. I don’t know how many times I have heard someone say something that set me off but after a little more listening I see that I wasn’t really listening.
There are so many places to apply this but it seems that it is a hard lesson to learn.
So? You might need to count to ten. Maybe 100. Give people the benefit of the doubt even if there is none.