(Proverbs 17:14 KJV) The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.
I am not a farmer. I am not even a gardener. I have never experienced the movement of dirt to allow water into a new row or field. My “letting out” (6362) is usually confined to opening a faucet. It is something that I have learned to do with caution. I have learned to turn slowly and listen carefully. I have learned to make sure that the hose is already attached and pointed in the right direction. I might even make sure that the end is in my hand.
We have all experienced what it is like when we ignore these precautions. At best we might see the end of the hose dancing around the yard. From there we can proceed to getting doused. It can even go to the point where real damage is done.
I think that usually we can sense when things are moving toward “strife” (4066). That should be the warning to slow down and take a deep breath. The best way to win a fight is to avoid a fight.
So? Being a macho dude is not in God’s game plan. Our charge is to avoid conflict, not be obsessed with winning.