(Pro 14:29 KJV) He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.
Have you ever observed someone who is doused, turns around seething with indignation, sees who dumped it on him and immediately calms down? Not only have I seen it, I have experienced it. What changes the reaction? “Understanding” (8394). If you are a teenage boy and you see that the attacker is a young lady you like, the attack becomes an enjoyable moment of flirting. If it was your grandmother trying to get your attention, respect kicks in.
Understanding involves allowing the mind that moment to think before your mouth, or other parts of your body, responds. It comes automatically for some. Others must develop it. It is part of the popular mythology of counting to ten.
So? Don’t waste your anger quota on trivial irritations.