(Proverbs 13:12 KJV) Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.
I find the sense of being “deferred” (4900) is different than I expected. If you look at the basic meaning it is to draw or drag. I get the impression of the way my feet shuffle in the morning as I am walking away from my bed. There is no bounce, no enthusiasm. My interest in the day is being deferred. The Blue Letter Bible tells me this is a Pual participle. Pual is the passive form of Piel in Hebrew. Piel expresses intensive or intentional action.
What does all that technical jargon mean? I would guess that it is telling us that we are capable of keeping joy and fulfillment at arms length. I think of times when I have been happy to sit around and feel sorry for myself. That was a lot easier than moving forward in faith, trusting the barriers to God’s care and being obedient. It is much easier to just blame others.
So? I can come up with plenty of reasons to feel stifled in life. Since I don’t want a “sick” (2470a) “heart” (3820) I am going to put aside my pity party and live in joy.