(Proverbs 21:14 KJV) A gift in secret pacifieth anger: and a reward in the bosom strong wrath.
We see two different Hebrew words used here. I find this verse a bit confusing. The main difference I can see between the two is that one is a genuine gift, done privately. The other is a bribe with the intent of influencing either a person or public opinion, an attempt to purchase even if it is under the guise of charity. The first is labeled as oil on the waters of life and the second just fans the flames.
Spiritual giving is done quietly. That seems to be the lesson of the first phrase. Have you ever seen churches that have the velvet bags for taking the offering rather than the flat, wooden plates? I think that would exhibit this idea in our church offerings. No one can see what you put in. It is between you and the Lord. The same can be accomplished with offering envelopes. In this time of economic distress, a quiet gift to someone in need is the ticket, not a public gift that embarrasses them and makes you look good.
So? Is there someone who needs part of your bounty? Give but do it quietly. Let God be the one who extends His blessing to you.