(Proverbs 29:11 KJV) A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
This might be another “chicken or the egg” situation. Which comes first, the wisdom or the hold? Here it says the “wise man” (2450) “keepeth” (holds NASB) (7623a) his temper “til afterwards” (back NASB) (268). It is possible that the way to deal with your anger is to seek wisdom first, not self control.
Sometimes getting angry is the result of lack of understanding. Sometimes it is because we are taking a short term view. Sometimes it is because we don’t remember what happened before or we are not paying attention to the stress someone else is going through. A little wisdom can go a long way in helping us to help instead of lash out.
So? Proverbs repeatedly tells us to get or acquire wisdom. It is something we can target. Of course that requires plugging our souls in, patching our mind and feeding them. Go for it.