(Pro 27:22 KJV) Though thou shouldest bray a fool in a mortar among wheat with a pestle, yet will not his foolishness depart from him.
The basic point is that you cannot force someone to cease being a fool. The more I watch the general population and our leaders the more I can accept that. But keep in mind the difference between the basic statement, “you can’t force a fool to learn”, and the opposite, “Fools cannot learn.” One is the truth expressed here. The opposite is expressed other places.
The basic point is that there are very real limits on what you can do for other people if they do not get on board to help themselves. Our current culture has gone the victim route. We have been convinced that people need the government or some rich person to help them out of their problem. In reality it just encourages most of them to double down and get more helpless. It is a fine line to walk and requires a bit of discernment along with a healthy dose of tough love.
So? Be willing to help but make sure that the help you are giving is the kind that helps people to stand on their own two feet rather than lean on you harder. Make discernment the goal of your prayer and charity. You goal is to help them not make yourself feel better.